There are many things that I have come to realize over the years of my married life. My husband and I have seen God working throughout all of our years together, during the rocky years and in the best years. When we were in a stagnant place, He never left us. And when we have been growing by leaps and bounds, He has always been there. He has been the one constant and the One Who has kept us together when we otherwise may have given up. Today I would like to share with you just three things that He has taught me in my personal life and as a 100% partner in my marriage. Never Say Never and Throw Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
I’ve always wondered why the seventh inning in baseball was designated as the time most fitting for a stretch, because I confess I’m usually ready by the third! I’ve also wondered how this need for a “stretch” plays out in marriage, finding it quite ironic that by year seven I was itching for more than a stretch. Although I vowed I would not repeat the cycle of divorce and was determined for my marriage covenant to last until death do us part, I was losing my desire to persevere. Marriage was harder than what I expected. The days were long, the dollars were short, and the joy we once had in Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
"Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." I never realized how true that quote was until I got married! My husband and I got married very young, while we were both still in college, and our first few years of marriage were very rocky. By the grace of God we were able to get plugged into a great church and great ministries that spoke truth over our marriage, and God began to work miracles within us. In those days of our struggles in marriage, we went to a marriage seminar and I heard the pastor speak about the needs of a man (and a woman). It was like someone had turned a light bulb on Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
"Live in harmony with one another; do not be haughty (snobbish, high-minded, exclusive), but readily adjust yourself to [people, things] and give yourselves to humble tasks. Never overestimate yourself or be wise in your own conceits." Romans 12:16 (Amplified Version) One phrase that my husband has started saying before declaring a statement as fact is, "I could be wrong, but..." This means that he recognizes that there could be room for error. I've thought about this as it relates to my relationship with him. Who doesn't like to be wrong? There are some that will argue their point into Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
Respecting my husband was a concept that eluded me for many years at the beginning of our marriage. I always felt that it would be so much easier if the command given in Ephesians had been for wives to "love" their husbands. Loving him I could do quite easily, while respect seemed like such a vague concept that I struggled to grasp and understand, let alone put into practice. Being respectful to your husband should become a habit, and as such it takes time and effort to perfect. I would like to offer you a simple list of ABCs to help you on your journey. Accept His Words As Wisdom When Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
15 years ago, our marriage changed forever. My Christian husband’s secret was out. He was losing the battle with pornography and sexual compulsion. By the blood of Christ, the sweat of heavy honest discussions, and tears of forgiveness, our marriage has thrived. How grateful I am God shows up in impossible situations. You cannot fix your husband. Christ and your husband have to do that. However, if you have recently discovered your husband is struggling with pornography, I want to help you become a Jael, so you can sink a tent spike into the temple of pornography. I want to help you Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. - Ephesians 5:33 Having grown up in a traditional south Indian household, I knew I was expected to respect my husband when I got married. And yet, a part of me didn't want to do it. I would respect my husband only when I felt he deserved it, or if he had done something nice for me. It was no wonder that our marriage was a struggle. Being a teacher, I was critical of everything my husband did. He always fell short of my expectations. Whether it was the way he took care of our baby, Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
So You Married a Dreamer - 3 Ways to Share His Dreams Let’s face it, you married a man; therefore, you married a dreamer. You also married a man with natural instincts put there by God to provide and care for you, his wife. An instinct to provide combined with his desire to make a difference in this world, mixed with a call to serve God = dreamer. Whether your husband wakes up each morning excited about what he does or not, he is still a dreamer. But you know what is even more important to him than his dreams? It is you, his wife, believing in his dreams. It’s you listening, encouraging, Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
Seeking adventures together ties heart strings together. My marriage is my favorite relationship here on earth. This is the man I've said "I do" to and plan to be with when we are an old-aged, gray-haired, front porch-sittin', great-grandkids-watchin' , story-tellin', sweet old couple. But to be able to do that, we must live a life together so that we can have stories to tell. It doesn't matter if you have opposite interests; there is still room to seek adventures together. Even if your schedules are swamped, you don't have enough time to NOT seek adventures together. Adventures tie your Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
Many wives are dissatisfied, discouraged, angry, depressed, lost . . . searching, simply waiting out their existence. Misled and desperate. Desperate for change, fulfillment, love . . . something. So they turn to things. Another man. An addiction. A secret life. A pit. A deep, dark, desperate pit. Are you in that pit? All alone? Ready for change, but still going back to it because that's where you're safe? Because hoping for change is harder than pretending it can't happen? Because protecting your heart is less painful than opening it enough for healing to happen? If that's you, would Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.