In the age of Pinterest parties, perfectly Instagrammed houses, and chain stores decorating for Christmas in the beginning of October, we can easily get swept up in what this season “should” look like. I’m guilty of it, too -- of longing for a “gorgeous” Christmas season. The decorations are over-the-top beautiful, trimmed with hand-dipped gold burlap with a sprig of lavender-infused pinecones on a neutral-colored reindeer cork board, where we display the hundreds of professionally-photographed Christmas cards. What?? When you’ve seen one Christmas tree made out of a wood pallet, you’ve seen Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
"Live in harmony with one another; do not be haughty (snobbish, high-minded, exclusive), but readily adjust yourself to [people, things] and give yourselves to humble tasks. Never overestimate yourself or be wise in your own conceits." Romans 12:16 (Amplified Version) One phrase that my husband has started saying before declaring a statement as fact is, "I could be wrong, but..." This means that he recognizes that there could be room for error. I've thought about this as it relates to my relationship with him. Who doesn't like to be wrong? There are some that will argue their point into Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
Respecting my husband was a concept that eluded me for many years at the beginning of our marriage. I always felt that it would be so much easier if the command given in Ephesians had been for wives to "love" their husbands. Loving him I could do quite easily, while respect seemed like such a vague concept that I struggled to grasp and understand, let alone put into practice. Being respectful to your husband should become a habit, and as such it takes time and effort to perfect. I would like to offer you a simple list of ABCs to help you on your journey. Accept His Words As Wisdom When Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. - Ephesians 5:33 Having grown up in a traditional south Indian household, I knew I was expected to respect my husband when I got married. And yet, a part of me didn't want to do it. I would respect my husband only when I felt he deserved it, or if he had done something nice for me. It was no wonder that our marriage was a struggle. Being a teacher, I was critical of everything my husband did. He always fell short of my expectations. Whether it was the way he took care of our baby, Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
So You Married a Dreamer - 3 Ways to Share His Dreams Let’s face it, you married a man; therefore, you married a dreamer. You also married a man with natural instincts put there by God to provide and care for you, his wife. An instinct to provide combined with his desire to make a difference in this world, mixed with a call to serve God = dreamer. Whether your husband wakes up each morning excited about what he does or not, he is still a dreamer. But you know what is even more important to him than his dreams? It is you, his wife, believing in his dreams. It’s you listening, encouraging, Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
Many wives are dissatisfied, discouraged, angry, depressed, lost . . . searching, simply waiting out their existence. Misled and desperate. Desperate for change, fulfillment, love . . . something. So they turn to things. Another man. An addiction. A secret life. A pit. A deep, dark, desperate pit. Are you in that pit? All alone? Ready for change, but still going back to it because that's where you're safe? Because hoping for change is harder than pretending it can't happen? Because protecting your heart is less painful than opening it enough for healing to happen? If that's you, would Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
There are many sins which we commit daily that we cannot hide. A mom is frustrated and loses her temper at the grocery store, a man lies to his boss in order to avoid getting reprimanded . . . but I am convinced that the SECRET SINS of our lives do far more damage than the known ones. My husband was into pornography since he was a little boy. While we were dating, he had a pin-up calendar and pasted a picture of my head onto their bodies. When I saw it, I thought it was really strange. You know how serial killers leave notes and they paste the magazine letters to make a note? That's what it Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
I reached across the bed and squeezed my husband’s hand. “We’ll get through this, babe,” he said. “Let’s pray and ask God for help.” Looking back, I honestly don’t remember what was troubling me that early morning. I just remember that I’d come into the bedroom a few minutes before with tears on my cheeks and a heart full of frustration and anger… and I’d been so relieved to see my husband waiting for me in our bed, ready to meet me for our morning devotion time. In that moment (and on almost a daily basis), I find myself grateful that my husband and I make morning Bible time a Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
Yes, He’s My Best Friend Eleven years ago, I walked down the aisle and said “I do” to my best friend. And it was that solid foundation of friendship and love that would get us through the next decade together. When something good happens, my husband is the first person I want to tell. Alternatively, when something bad happens, he’s the person whose shoulder I want to cry on—whose arms I want wrapped around me. My husband knows all my secrets. He’s seen me first thing in the morning, without any make-up and without my hair fixed. He sticks around during “that time” of the month and even Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.
3 Things Your Husband Feels About Sex – That You Might Not Know or Believe Having blogged for four years on Christian sex in marriage, I’ve logged over 6,800 comments. Although my main audience is wives, many men provide feedback. Again and again, husbands have touched on three themes…which surprised me. I wasn’t surprised by what men describe about sex, but rather the intensity of their feelings as expressed in many heartfelt words and stories. So here are three things your husband likely feels about sex, that you might not know or believe. 1. Sex is irrevocably entangled with his Continue Reading...This post may contain affiliate links. See my full disclosure policy.